One definition of strength is the ability to withstand great force. Another definition of strength is the ability to ask for help so that you can withstand great force. We struggle accepting this latter definition because we struggle to ask for help.

We've been conditioned to believe that true strength is rubbing some dirt on it, pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps, putting our heads down and getting to work. Strength is all of these things. But, strength is also so much more.

Boxers have corners.

Formula 1 drivers have pit crews.

Astronauts have mission control.

Knights had squires.

The list goes on.

Strength in life, love and work requires help. Anyone who thinks otherwise suffers from extreme hubris and isn't truly strong. What separates men from boys and women from girls is their awareness to recognize when they need help and the humility to ask for it.

Asking for help won't only make you stronger, it will build stronger bonds and relationships with the people in your life you care about most. We feel closer to the people who ask us for help. We feel a sense of responsibility to the people who ask us for help. We feel love towards the people who ask us for help.

So, ask for help.